Five Communication Problems in Relationships

by Z. L. Best

Most disagreeing partners that argue have communication problems in relationships in common with each other. Yes, there can be money or trust issues, but at the heart of the problem is the lack of the ability to talk and listen to each other.

Here’s five communication tips that can help---if the partners want to make the effort to improve or save their relationship.

Before you even attempt these steps, have a talk with your partner. Do they believe the relationship is worth cultivating and saving? If they agree, then discuss the steps you are willing to take to improve your communication problems in relationships:

1.    For starters, learn to listen. Yes, it is a skill that can be learned with a little patience and effort. There’s nothing more loving or sexier than a lover that listens to what you say. And there’s nothing more disheartening than a partner who has a short attention span when you speak.

2.    Ask your spouse or lover how their day has been (if they’re not too irritable!)  Most of the time, everyone loves to be asked about their day--- such as what happened at work for example. (If your partner doesn’t want to talk about it, don’t ask.) Many times, people crave advice on work-related problems. Be your partner’s best friend.

3.    Learn to give in to your partner’s requests sometimes. No, not all the time! But learn to compromise---if he or she wants to go to a certain movie or restaurant you don’t especially care for, learn to give in occasionally.

4.    Ask your partner to listen to you, in return. And give in to some of your requests too.  Remember if you do all the giving in the relationship, resentments will gradually build up.
 
5.    . Compromise is the name of the game. Remember that maintaining your special love together is the goal here. Don’t be afraid to talk about your needs, worries and concerns. Tell your partner you want to know the same from them.

It isn’t always easy to keep a relationship stable.  Tell your partner that you are serious about keeping your connection together and you are willing to work on it together. If you need an outside mediator, try a trained relationship counselor who can work together with partners. This can help you set goals and work on achieving them. A relationship must never be taken for granted.








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