Can You Prevent a Breakup That's Just About to Happen
by Z. L. Best
You know the familiar scene: your partner forgot to help you out with the daily chores again. They make some excuse and avoid you for a few hours. You start to feel less connection and interest from your spouse every day.
Remember when you met him or her a few years ago? Do you actually remember why they moved in with you---either through marriage or partnership? Most people recall how they first fell in love with their partner---it's a special moment.
Remember also that in course of life, things do happen. Family members are born or die, jobs are lost or gained, there's money to be made and spent, and health situations can change either for the better or can get worse.
Here's some tips to stop your relationship from breaking up:
* Pay attention to your spouse. Ask questions, show interest in their opinions, appearance, and what happened during their day.
* Show some affectionate or loving touch. Remember what first drew you to them in the first place. Showing a little love goes a long way in a relationship. Be clear and intent on saving your marriage.
* Stop keeping score and what your partner has done wrong and makes you angry and irritated. Find some common ground to solve the problem or issue.
* Start compromising and ask for the same from your spouse. Show that you care about saving the relationship and why you feel that it has evolved into a stale and boring routine.
You do not want to breakup your marriage or relationship as obviously there is love there. You have to rediscover the love again together. Set aside some time for a weekly date and start the romance all over again.
Be proactive together in the marriage. If you can't agree on what the problems are or how to solve those problems, do some research and get learn some techniques on how to get started. Learn that it does take time to rebuild a relationship, but it can be done if both partners agree to commit themselves to a common goal.
Ask your spouse or partner if they feel the relationship is worth saving---because you are willing to do the work together to improve and save it. Make the decision to stick together because you love each other and you are committed to make it work.
Don't expect a miraculous change at first. And remember to have fun together while you are rebuilding your marriage. If you have children, this is most important. Children are extremely sensitive to their parents' relationship. Keep the love with each other and with your children.
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